lost chapters...

as a child, I can remember crying to God for why He made me a girl. I suppose many people might not guess that today as I'm often in a dress or heels while out. a friend declared that I am overcompensating for lost time.

I suppose I've come to terms with being a woman, although those thoughts still creep into my mind. would I change into a man if I could? probably not. had I been asked 5 years ago.. my name today might be Daniel and I'd have a functioning penis. I felt more like a crossdresser when I put my first dress on. I've come a long way in these last couple of years.

I was convinced, that I wasn't just a tomboy, but a boy cursed with girls body trying to learn to be feminine. my mom hated it; my dad thought I'd make a better son than my brother. I preferred climbing trees and hanging with the guys. I thought, I would be gay guy when I grow up. I was confused. I hated pink but part of me still wished to enjoy the same interests as other girls.. but I also liked girls. doing girl things meant I could be close to them.. so, what does that mean I'd wonder. I was intrigued by my body yet disgusted. I was intrigued by everyone's body really. boys had something I wanted; girls had something I wanted to look at.

I'd feel a strange bit of embarrassment looking thru magazines at women in their bras and panties.. jealousy of them, but jealousy of men as well with their chests and bulges showing in boxer briefs.. I saw a nipple thru a lace brazierre in a JcPenny catalog. so confused... and aroused.

as I got older, I accepted that I am physically female. I wanted to be attractive to men because that's the way its supposed to be... forgive me for my narrow mind. living my life rejected: rejected by girls, rejected by boys, rejected by my parents, I just wanted to fit in somewhere.. being gay and/or transgendered would just set me further apart. clearly, I am not strong.

so, now on to the next step. I have met a woman that I'm totally infatuated. when we met in person for the first time, I felt the same and my physical attraction grew. at the end of the night, we hugged.. heat rushed down between my legs. her body felt so good in my arms. breasts pressed against me... in those few seconds, I wondered how or why I ever believed I could be heterosexual.

I hate to sound like I never enjoyed sex with men. I do find men attractive, I'm just free to not think about fucking them. its funny, but the men I enjoyed sex with the most, are the ones I rarely had intercourse with... the ones who spent more time touching me than fucking me with his dick... lesbian sex with straight men.

I could go for a good hard fuck right now... I just can't seem to desire men anymore. which sucks as men are an expendable source of sexual relief. my dry spell is quickly turning into a drought. a painful, throbbing drought.

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hypocrite...

you know, I claim to live by the old saying "live and let live".. recently, thanks to some encouragement from a new friend, I've finally decided to submit myself to the truth.

I'm often remembered as the girl that "marched to my own beat" and didn't seem to care what others thought... so often I've preached to others to do what feels right and fuck everyone else. I've allowed people to believe I don't give a shit, when I do. I've always cared which is why I've always kept myself hidden. I need to own up to the fact that I'm a hypocrite.

I support everyone and everything they do; I have so many gay and bisexual friends, yet I've never said a word. I've just allowed everyone to assume I'm straight, all while trying to convince myself that I'm merely a straight girl wishing to be gay rather than a gay girl pretending to be straight. how can I call myself an honest person? how can people trust me when I not only lie to others but to myself?

just a little self rant. time to begin a more honest life..

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first love...

in the past couple of years especially, I've been going thru a sort of revelation.

feelings towards women are nothing new.... I've just never really forced myself to acknowledge them. anytime I've had a crush on a girl or it hasn't worked out or I've gotten scared, I've retreated back to the safety of Straightland. I've come so close to the edge, but always turned back.. being straight, regardless of whether I ever was or not, is comfortable. its safe. its expected. no one questions a woman that is with a man. however, after this last attempt, I feel as though the gates to Straightland have been closed; I've been banned from the world of the straight life; cast away to Queer City until I've figured out what the Hell I want.

when I was in first or second grade, I developed my first crush.. my first obsession actually. her name was Jennifer Franklin. she sat to the right of me in class. she's the only person in that class I remember. she had long wavy brown hair and blue eyes.

at first, it was just me staring at her. I remember she would turn around and give me this "what the fuck are you staring at" look. I didn't stop though; I couldn't stop. I was happy to get her attention. soon I started writing her notes letting her know I liked her and telling her how beautiful she is. I believe she was flattered in the beginning with the possibility of a new friend, until I continued deeper with love letters, which led to other disruptive behaviors: singing, whispering I love you, holding up signs declaring my devotion. I told her I wanted to marry her and have babies together.

one day the teacher walked up to me and opened my folder to find one of my signs. that was the last day I saw Jennifer. I can't remember if she was moved to the other side of the room or I was moved to a different class.. either way, she was gone. I believe my mom gave me a short speech that girls like boys, chalking it up to an innocent phase..

years later I'd gotten her out of my mind. it was only a phase... and then I saw her, or a girl that looked like her, from across the parking lot at kmart. it was like in a movie: her hair blowing in the wind, a dusty cloud lining blocking my peripheral vision. I wanted to say something, but I didn't. I mean what could I say? what if she hadn't recognized me? or what's worse, she had? the queer little girl that used to sing to her? so I just stared, all the same feelings returned..

before I even knew the word bisexual existed, I knew I wasn't "straight". i knew I could love anyone regardless of their genitals, but it wasn't proper. at 26 though, I'm realizing you can't choose to be straight just like you can't choose to be gay. you can live the lifestyle but eventually the sexuality police will find you and realize you're an illegal immigrant to their world. they'll strip you of your cover up and you will be banished. you'll have no choice but to walk along the uneasy path of discovery and acceptance. hopefully you'll meet some people along the way to assist you on your journey. a band a merry men (or women).

I have come out privately to myself many times, only to jump back into my messy closet. I've locked the door behind me this time so I hope to let go of the handle and allow myself to follow this undeveloped road. I may find something at the end that I've wanted all along.

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changes...

like the moon, I seem to be entering a new phase in life. gliding thru the channels of self and sexuality. I'm not sure if the changes are permanent or simply situational.

since my ex left me last year, I've only had sex 3 times (something I only just realized while writing this).. I've given 2 blow jobs.. yet I've been masturbating excessively while obsessively lusting after a Hispanic tomboy from work. I was temporarily drawn in by a tall transgendered female and as time passes, I find myself less and less attracted to men. lesser than that after each sexual encounter.

the only reason this has become topic is because last night while out in a bar, I was introduced to a good-looking young man with glasses. he was dressed in a nice pair of slacks, a
button down shirt, and a bow tie, which I loved. we had a great conversation and he listened to me intently.. but then he asked me if I wanted a kiss. I'm not sure how I felt at that moment. strangely surprised, considering hed been complimenting and giving me an unusual amount of attention. he then handed me a piece of Kiss chocolate, we laughed and continued talking.... then it came: the pick up. he asked me what I was doing afterwards to which I replied going to bed. he asked me if I wanted company and used the classic "my place or yours".... just as soon as he finished his last breath I felt the words I'm a lesbian about to be blurted from my mouth, however I instead giggled, a lot, to avoid any impulsive statements then told him I'm not interested in hooking up (which is a lie because I fuck in my dreams practically every night and go thru my days like a wound up jack in the box on edge).

how can I not be attracted to an attractive man? especially when all I talk about is wanting attention from someone special and never getting picked up. I understand that looks don't necessarily justify attraction but I felt nothing. I mean nothing at all towards any direction.

earlier in the night, I had a friend of mine do some detective work. he said he thought he knew a girl that fit Jo's description and found her over Facebook; they had a mutual friend.. so I messaged her. I introduced myself and asked her if she's seeing anyone. I was so anxious all night waiting for her reply... when she did reply, I was heartbroken. she was very nice about it; she told me she is seeing someone. for 12 years... I don't know if its a man or a woman, although I'm fairly certain its a woman. holding my heart, I told her that's wonderful, expressed to her what an attractive woman she is and left it at that. I wanted to cry but that's how it goes. at least now I can move on, I guess. I'm now wondering what it'll be like when I see her at work again. will she pass me thru the hall like I don't exist, or will she smile and wave, looking me in the eye, knowing we're not quite like the other girls?

the boy from the bar surprised me with a little kiss on the lips. for those 5 seconds, I felt myself screaming for hours from the inside: what are you doing? please don't use tongue! ew. why aren't I enjoying this? when will it end? I'm so embarrassed. what will I do if he sticks his tongue in my mouth??

I'm not sure what to think of myself right now. I'm not sure how I'm feeling right now. I'm not really sure of anything. however, I am sure that I'm not sure of where I'm going or what I'm doing. I suppose all I can really do is watch the transformation unfold. I certainly don't feel like I'm living in my body. its more like sitting outside myself. like a movie. observing, wondering what she's going to do next. not knowing what's going thru her head.

have I reached a turning point in my story or a foreshadowing of future events? perhaps I'll find out more after I arrive in Georgia. the end of this chapter is a bit unstable; the next one ought to have some clarifying moments. perhaps some new supporting characters? I'm so curious what the author was thinking when he wrote the novel to my life. I'm so curious of what he has in store.

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simple truth? popcorn, granola, water

recently I signed up to be a bzzagent on bzzcampaign. my first campaign was a lot for Simple Truth. I got a bag of popcorn, a bottle of water and a box of granola cereal.

firstly, the popcorn. I love popcorn. I'm addicted. I could literally eat popcorn all day every day! I pop mine in a pot on the stove, old school lol. I'm not really tied up in the organic scene, but I do like that there are inexpensive options. the popcorn was a bit chewy which is expected with bagged popcorn. the taste was the bothersome part. it had a strange metal sort of taste. I dunno.. its hard to explain. the actual flavor for the popcorn was lightly salted. it was indeed lightly salted but that metal taste was too much. after I sprinkled on my popcorn seasoning, it wad tolerable enough for me to eat the entire bag in one sitting lol. I probably won't repurchase this, but I would recommend it to others to try it. its not bad, I just don't want to have to adjust the flavor. if I see a bag of cheddar flavor, I might have to give it a try. I'm a sucker for cheddar flavored chips and popcorn.

the water was not entirely impressive. the flavor was tropical mango. mango just happens to be my favorite fruit so I was excited to taste it. um, I didn't care for it but my 3yr old son enjoys it. we drink a lot of water here, but I was expecting a bit more flavor in the water. not too much, just enough to give the natural sweetness of a mango. I probably will not purchase this product either but manly because we are fine drinking tap water with a splash of crystal light if we want flavor.

lastly is the berry flavored granola. I'm not a big fan of granola but I actually enjoyed this one. sweet and crunchy. if ever I'm in the market for granola, I probably would purchase this.

so out of the three products, the only one I would purchase is the one I wouldn't normally even buy lol. all are good, but only the granola really stood out to me

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Update: September 1

I don't know my last update but quite a bit has been going on. My weight loss has been slow and my hair journey sporadic.

I'm down to 160 from, I think, 183 size I first noticed myself getting fatter. I do plan on continuing to lose weight until I just can't lose anymore lol. Actually 145 is my goal. That is a good healthy weight, not too skinny or big. I'll be happy to see 155 right now though.

I've tried a few products which I will do reviews on including taliah waajid curly curl creme and curl sealer, eco styler gel, and some garnier products.

I just want to give a quick rant. yesterday afternoon I attempted a wash and go with eco styler gel. Um, over 12 hours later, my hair is still wet... Low porosity hair is something else. Looks like I'm going to have to invest in a diffuser.

I'll do my product reviews sometime this week. I've been working like crazy and have so much drama going on its ridiculous. If things get settled in the next couple of months I might post a video or two. I'm probably not going to do any tutorials because I all don't have any real routine. I just wash it when I can, use water to moisturize during the week, condition and twist when I get a chance.. My schedule has been so busy, I'm relieved the wash and go worked out somewhat. The shrinkage I can do without as I like my hair to be big but I'll work with it.

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Week 4... plateau

I'm entering my fourth week on this whole diet thing. Here are my stats:

SW: 183
CW: 170
GW1: 160
GW 2: 145
UGW: easy and manageable

So, I've lost roughly 10 pounds since I started this thing, but I'm pretty sure it's all water weight because I don't look or feel any different. Guess I oughta start posting pictures.

I noticed since I hit 170, I can't seem to go lower. It's as if my body is clinging on to this fat for dear life! Very frustrating. Made the mistake of buying sour cream and cheddar chips, my weakness. I can ignore cakes and cookies, but chips I can't. I don't plan on buying anymore after this bag runs out. I was crabbing them so got them. Figured if that's the only junk food I ate, them I'm ok haha.

Thus week I've decided to start implementing circuit training to Mt exercise regimen. Reminds me of my days in boot camp haha.

So, the good news is I haven't gained, but I'm stuck.. I really want to get out of the 170s. After my mom died, I easily put on 20 lbs in less than 2 months, so my first goal is to get back down to a where I was, then continue on down to my pre pregnancy weight. From there, who knows. Guess I'll keep going until I'm just tired of losing. Well,.that is,.I'd I can ever get passed this plateau

Ugh,.just want to cut this fat off with a pair of scissors...

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